It’s a phrase we hear often in church circles: “It’s not about religion — it’s about relationship.” But what does that really mean? Aren’t we talking about the same thing?

Not quite.

Religion, in its most fundamental form, is a system of beliefs, rules, traditions, and rituals that are designed to connect people with God. However, the danger arises when the system becomes the goal instead of the means, when faith turns into routine, when we follow the motions but miss the heart.

Jesus came to challenge that.

In Matthew 23, He speaks directly to religious leaders who were experts in the rules but distant from God’s love. They looked holy on the outside but neglected the weightier matters: justice, mercy and faithfulness. Religion was their badge of honor, but their relationship with God was missing.

Jesus didn’t die to give us rituals. He died to give us access.

In John 15:15, He says, “I no longer call you servants. Instead, I have called you friends.” That’s personal. That’s intimate. That’s the connection.

Relationship with God means walking with Him, not just learning about Him. It means prayer becomes conversation, not obligation. Reading the Bible becomes nourishment, not a chore. Church becomes family, not a box to check.

Does that mean religion is bad? Not necessarily. Rituals and disciplines can deepen your faith when they’re rooted in love. But when the habit replaces the heart, something gets lost.

God is not asking you to earn your place; He’s inviting you to receive it. To know Him. To be known by Him. To follow Him not out of fear, but out of love.

So, if you’ve felt burned out on religion, don’t give up on God. Lean in. He’s not asking for your performance, He’s simply asking for your presence.

You can write the Pastor at pastorbilly@findtruelife.com.